Laurel Hill

April 2, 2020April 3, 2020

What to do while quarantined? Just BE.

I strongly encourage you all to take this extra time at home to just BE.

Put your feet up, take a nap, read a book, listen to music, watch a show you love.

It’s okay to not feel productive, even literary agents are tweeting about it – assuring writers that motivation and inspiration will come when we’re good and ready.

It’s okay to not be good right now. Forgive yourself. You’re human. You’re reacting to a life turned upside down, grieving over the loss of “normal”, longing for your life to pick up again without risking death.

Be kind to yourself. Nurture yourself. Release your frustrations. Let your tears cleanse you.

Just be. ❤️

November 16, 2019December 13, 2019

THE PERSON WHO IS TRULY IN LOVE WITH YOU

The person who is truly in love with you will never walk away. They will never make you guess their feelings for you.

The person who is truly in love with you cares when you feel hurt. They will want to fix the problem immediately, even if it wasn’t their fault.

Misunderstandings should never destroy a relationship, they should be opportunities for growth while learning how to communicate effectively.

November 16, 2019December 13, 2019

DON’T PICK THAT SCAB

Don’t pick that scab.

It’s so hard to not keep looking at your wound. But don’t fool yourself in believing you can speed up the healing process by picking off the layers of what was already healed.

Try your best to not analyze WHY you got hurt, but WHAT you can do to make sure it doesn’t happen again.

Focus on other things that take your mind off the pain and know that you can still heal without replaying the trauma over and over in your head.

You’re not ignoring the problem by leaving the wound free to heal in its own time, you are loving yourself by acknowledging it will take time for the wound to disappear.

You have a lesser chance of developing a scar if you can practice this kindness to yourself. If a scar is inevitable, it’s a reminder of what you don’t want to happen again.

Don’t pick that scab.

July 26, 2019December 13, 2019

YOU’RE ONLY AS HAUNTED AS YOU BELIEVE

I hear it all the time from clients: “What can I do to get rid of this negative energy attached to me?”

My answer: Stop believing that it’s attached to you.

Your thoughts can be a powerful weapon used for good and for bad. Unfortunately, many people focus on the bad. I’m not saying there aren’t negative energies hanging around – there are. What I do want to say is to STOP FOCUSING ON THEM.

Negative energies can arise from both the living and the dead. Trust me, the living energies are much more to be feared. But it’s the unknown that can get you to believe differently.

You become certain that what you cannot see is just as dangerous as a psychopath with a cold beating heart.

Energies come in different types of waves. You can sense negative energy as a vibration that makes you extremely uncomfortable. So what do you do to make them go away?

CLEAR IT AWAY.

I like to use sea salt and distilled water to clear away any negative energy around me. I am a big fan of michelesnelling.com products, but if you don’t have the funds to have someone make a clearing spray for you – DIY! Just make sure the sea salt is a pure fine grain. Mix just a little with distilled water, then spray it around you and the area you sense the negative energy.

THIS WORKS FOR THE LIVING AND THE DEAD.

Hence, if you’ve had an argument or someone is in a bad mood – spray it away. If you fear a negative entity is hanging around – spray it away.

Salt neutralizes the ions in the air responsible for negative attachment. It’s comparable to saging/smudging but without the smoke.

I certainly don’t recommend paying someone to come to your house to “clear negative energies” when YOU can and should do it on your own (for free).

If you truly feel haunted, possessed, attacked, and/or overwhelmed by energies you cannot see, I suggest going to see a therapist, NOT A PSYCHIC.

Spiritual counseling helps, but only if the counselor does NOT believe in possession. If you seek help from someone claiming to “know” that “an entity is attached to you”, RUN.

Earthbound energies are bullies. Treat them as so by NOT giving them your energy to play around with. If you truly believe that entities are out to hurt you, then THAT IS YOUR TRUTH.

You must get to a place in your mind, body, and spirit that allows you to believe that you aren’t a victim to anyone or anyTHING. The stronger you feel on an emotional level, the weaker an entity will feel around you.

Don’t ever pay someone to scare you with such awful suggestions of possession.

May 4, 2019December 13, 2019

The Back Burner

Many of my clients ask me why the person they were dating suddenly disappeared. Where did they go? Why did they go? Will they ever come back? I don’t need to be psychic to tell you what happened.

Ghosted.

You hear about it all the time in this lovely digital age of swiping right, but the practice goes way back. In the olden days, all you had to do was avoid opening the front door. Then, Alexander Bell paved the way to the busy signal; a loud, obnoxious, stabbing rhythm of NO, NO, NO!

The latest in technology has found a new way for you to suffer: silence.

Your calls, texts, and emails are ignored. They can even be (gulp) blocked. Snail mail? Ha! Not even an option now. Do the kids today even know what a stamp is?

The woes of unrequited love continue in a world of such evolution. Seems like that person you really liked has suddenly vanished. It’s a head-scratcher. Everything was going great! You had a lovely banter via text. The dates were fantabulous. And chemistry? Yes!

You were sure they felt the same way, then poof! Gone.

Did their house blow up? Are they in the hospital suffering from amnesia? Soon enough, you’re stalking their social media accounts and finding them very much alive and happy – without you.

Furthermore, you go to sites focused on relationship advice and read all about how their disappearance was your fault. You didn’t play hard enough to get. You were too quick to reply to their messages. You were just too available.

Sure, you could say you were ghosted, but I prefer to use a different analogy: **you were placed on the BACK BURNER.**

Left alone to simmer, days and nights go by, and you wonder if they’ll ever find the time to answer your messages. If they do reply from time to time, another date with them is unlikely. Their messages will lack depth, but it will be enough to stir you up just a little. You know, to make sure you’re still warm. If you don’t seem too burned from their neglect, they’ll go missing again, back to focus on whatever else they have cooking in their life.

Why would anyone think you belong on the back burner? Certainly not the emotionally mature singles you hear exist out there but rarely meet. Such a rare breed.

So, what do you do when it happens to you?

REALIZE YOUR WORTH AND UP YOUR STANDARDS.

The dating coaches are right. It’s okay to play a little hard to get. Human beings are wired for the chase. But when you realize the person you thought really liked you are now making you guess their interest in your amazing self, it’s time to show them you have a life that is perfectly fine without their presence. The process should go like this:

THEM: How you doin’?

YOU:

THEM: He was just there! Where did he go?

I just checked in on her last week. There’s no way she got burned – I stirred her up to perfection.

I set the temperature just right – he should still be simmering for me. What happened?

Oh no. Did I accidentally throw her out? (Looks inside his emotional trash bin)

If they really are interested in you but just got caught up in the game, your silence will be their reality check.

Soon enough, they’ll be stalking your social media profiles. They’ll see how happy you are without them. They’ll worry that your fun, charismatic ways may have landed someone else’s interest while they were away. They won’t want their mistake to happen again, and they will reach out a few more times to schedule an actual date, hoping you’ll give them another chance.

Waiting too long to respond is continuing the game.

You don’t want that. If you think they’re worth your time, accept the date. If they apologize, take it with a smile. Scolding is never the way to a person’s heart. However, they need to earn your trust and prove to you that the back burner no longer exists. You, my dear, should be the only one cooking in their life.